Alpha to Omega

I've been thinking that maybe it's because I've never really sat down with someone and talked about the dynamics of what our 'relationship' (please see prior post) should look like. So, with no further ado, this is what I want (I think I will print this and take it with me on my next date).

I meet someone with whom I have a lot of chemistry. We have good dialogue and eventually discuss the dynamics of what we want out of the relationship, such as defining boundaries and sexual preferences (This is important, as having an answer to "what are you into" indicates to me that he is sexually mature and knows what he wants and what he is prepared to give me). We are both satisfied that we can meet each other’s needs and so we proceed to the next step.

On Friday night, I meet him at his apartment. We either go out for dinner or cook (depending on his personal preferences. I don't like to cook for someone unless they really enjoy doing it themselves, and have an appreciation for good food), and then have great sex, preferably all night. We wake up late on Saturday, eat a light breakfast and then go our separate ways. We maintain a friendship that is built on honesty, trust and respect (I have a lot of trouble understanding why when I demand these simple things, people assume that I am high maintenance, or am asking them to marry me). Though we may not see each other often outside of the bedroom, we still find value in getting to know and like each other on a personal level. I feel that, although he may not be my first resort, I could go to him if I were in trouble and him to me.

This may not seem to some of you to be a hard thing to find. I disagree. It is very hard to find, because most people don't discuss what they want prior to engaging in their own separate definitions of a 'casual relationship', or they don't know what they want at all and begin something that ultimately (please forgive the terribly common idiom) they cannot finish. The clash in definition is especially prevalent, as I seem only to encounter men who think that I should just want to have hooker sex with them and then shuffle off the face of the earth until our next appointed time.

I don't think I need to mention that great sex is hard to come by. Sometimes, I get so frustrated with not finding it, that any hint of sexual compatibility has me trying too hard to squeeze it out of them. It’s like when you're on the verge of having an orgasm and it gets stronger and stronger but just never comes.

This entry is badly written, and I apologize. Let me summarize...healthy, honest and vigorous sexual relationship.

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